Boy Meets Girl: Hello to Courtship paperback - Juy 26, 2005
by Joshua Harris (Author)
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Purpose Driven Romance The last thing singles want is more rules. But if you're looking for an intentional, God-pleasing game plan for finding a future spouse, Joshua Harris delivers an appealing one. A compelling new foreword, an all-new "8 Great Courtship Conversations" section, and updated material throughout makes this five-year revision of the original Boy Meets Girl a must-have! Harris illustrates how biblical courtship - a healthy, joyous alternative to recreational dating - worked for him and his wife. Boy Meets Girl presents an inspiring, practical example for readers wanting to pursue the possibility of marriage with someone they may be serious about.
I am 68 years old and I recommend that every Christian alive on this earth read this book. Putting God and His will first in our lives. In every aspect of our lives. Considering others needs before out own. I wish I could have read this when I was 13 and new in the faith. I did pray that God would bring me the boyfirend of His choice. And He did. But I could have used a bit of wisdom on dealing with the emotions back then. I highly recommend this book to teenagers, adults, parents, grandparents, ministers, would be mentors, in short everyone who wants a closer relationship with God and with each other.
Highly recommend this book!!
Great account of the author's personal experience through the process of courtship as well as others. Reads fast. It has lots of useful information in getting to know the other person while being guarded and uncompromised. The questions and ideas on getting to know one another in groups is also helpful. There are some things that could have been left out of the book. The flip side is that it is good to have an example so young people will have an idea of what courtship looks like.
As a 28 year old male who has tried dating the worlds way for all of my dating time... This book was a breath of fresh air for a few reasons. While some of the things in here may be "common sense" to some (individual backgrounds and results will vary) there were some perspectives, thoughts, and questions that I had either ignored, not thought to meditate on, or even occurred to me. I would caution people from falling prey to unintentional legalism with a book like this. Josh gives some good practical guidelines, but also makes it very clear that they should be taken with a grain of salt and that each situation is unique. The only issue I had with this book, was that he pointed out some lines of thinking I didn't even realize I've had in the past and it was uncomfortable to face. But that's my issue, not his or even an issue of the book itself. A good read for any Christian who is open to taking their relationship seriously - and likewise is serious about honoring Him in / with it.
Good ideas, for the most part
As the title of this review says, good ideas, for the most part. I agree with what most of this book says. The chivalrous behavior, guarding your own and your partner's weaknesses to make sure neither stumble, and lots of other tips in this book are very beneficial. However, one thing I think the author does not emphasize enough from page one is first seeking God before even considering courting someone. He doesn't seem to understand that a person can directly ask God "Should I court so-and-so?" Or "is it meant for me to court/marry so and so?" In the first and second chapters, he talks more about whether someone feels led to court based on their own feelings, biblical wisdom or what they want to do rather than asking God first. Some might think, well, maybe it is understood to go to God first because it is a Christian book. That might not necessarily be true for some Christians. Yes, biblical wisdom should be used. But first you go to God and ask Him directly if it is His will to court so-and-so (yes, that is allowed). THEN you wait for an answer. Does it line up with scripture? Is it confirmed by the Holy Spirit? And is there a peace about it? If those check off THEN make your move to court. NOT beforehand and NOT by personal wisdom!!! Secondly, in the beginning of the book, he does not emphasize enough the importance of God's direct role in choosing our mate. It should not be based on whether we find the person attractive, or think that just because a person is a Christian, they are court worthy; there is more to it than that. He does not talk enough about how God knows who is best for us. He talks about how family should play a role in the process because they know us well. But he neglects to mention that God knows us best, that He should be the first one we go to when we start to consider our future mate and to ask Him to bring us the mate that He knows is best for us. If we pray about it FIRST, God will bring the right person, under the right circumstances in His perfect timing. As stated before, the author mentions these things, but not until near the end of the book. GOD's thoughts, wisdom and insight comes FIRST through prayer of directly asking what He says we should do when we should do it. THEN we follow suit with trust, obedience and patience.
About The Author
Joshua Harris lives outside Washing-ton , D.C. , in Gaithersburg , Maryland , where he is senior pastor at Covenant Life Church . He speaks nationally and has led the New Attitude conferences for college students for six years. Joshua's bestselling books include I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Boy Meets Girl, Not Even a Hint, and Stop Dating the Church. He and his wife, Shannon, have two children, Emma Grace and Joshua Quinn.